20 January, 2009

interview me part three.

So this is part three and final part of Interview Me, thanks again to Simply-Mel for these questions.

Part one is here.
Part two is here.

Question 4: What is the one thing you see parents doing that you and Francois have sworn you will never do with/to your kids.
Answer 4: Okay, this is a funny one. Mainly because, most of our friends and family all have children, so Francois and I often have this conversation....oh, and don't laugh, but we watch The Nanny on BBC, so we think we have this parenting thing down....and, I can hear my sister laughing the loudest.
So here goes, my number one thing is...Never negotiate with children, or bribe them to do something. You know what I mean. Excuse me who is the boss? That's it, there are rules and that's how it is. If you don't do it there will be a consequence. It is simple.

Okay, okay I can here the snickers already. I am sure I will be reminded of this post in a few years time. But it is always easier to criticise from the outside.

Question 5: What is your vision for yourselves as a family?
Answer 5: Great question. Children are definitely in our future {God willing}, I would actually love to have four or five {that thud you just heard, was Francois falling over}, but realistically, I don't think that would happen. Hopefully soon, this biological clock, is no longer ticking...it is screaming at me {that other thud, Francois again}.

I don't mind where I live as long as my home, is my perfect home. Oh and have I got every detail worked out in my head and yes, it has a white picket fence. The pic give you some sort of idea...
I see us staying in South Africa. I want to travel as much as possible. Work wise, this is a bit more difficult. I have tried the house wife thing, and it was not for me. However, I would love to be at home with my kids, like my Mom was for me. So for me it would be running a small business from home, or having my own business, so that I can dictate my hours...that would be great.

Oh and if I could live, cook and decorate like Martha Stewart, that would be perfect!

Thanks Mel, this has been fun. Hope it was a little interesting.

Let me know if you'd like to play along and I'll send you some questions!
1. Leave me a comment saying interview me and your email address.
2.If you want to keep your email address private, email me your request to interview you hayleymalherbe@gmail.com
3. I will email you five questions.
4. Answer the questions on your blog.
5. Post rules on your blog with an offer to interview anyone else who emails you wanting to be interviewed.
6. Try and personalise the questions to the particular blogger.


Ordinarylife said...

I'll play - it looks like fun! It was interesting reading your answers.

Hayley said...

Okay cool will think up some questions...mmmmm what do I want to know :-)

Unknown said...

I am killing myself laughing, cos your answer about kids is exactly what I think. No negotiations. But I'll be that when my time comes it'll be a different story. Hee hee.
PS: I'm wishing you lots of fertility and many kids in the future.

Unknown said...

I'd like to play along. Email: thepurringcat@gmail.com

Mel said...

Was so fun reading your answers...am thinking we should do this more often!

I enjoy the Nanny and cant fault her techniques. They work and they are practical. The only thing is consistency....she never in it for the long haul....but you are so right. NEVER NEGOTIATE.

Janet said...

LOL! My daugher is nearly 21 now! I did not believe in negotiating either - it works, its just damn hard work when they're teenagers - to stick to your guns is not a joke!

Shayne said...

Great post! Wait till you've got a pre-teen and a 3 year old - then negotiating unfortunately becomes a part of your daily living. Sad, but true. And bribing doesn't hurt occasionally either ;)

Jen said...


This has been fun. I've enjoyed getting to know you.

Great idea

Jen said...

I was thinking that this would be something I might like to do on my blog,especially b/c I have so many new readers in the last little while.

my email is jcoin@alumni.nmu.edu

I will answer any questions that you may have for me.

Hayley said...

Yay Jen, sending some questions through now!

Ordinarylife said...

Thanks, that was fun.

Wenchy said...

The hosue wife thing is allot more thrilling with kids - promise! Although my house wife carreer ended with my marriage.

jenn said...

Hmm, I want to play but I just told someone else to send me some questions... If I don't like their questions I'll come back and ask you instead. Haha.

I like your answer to the kid thing. I totally agree about not bribing your kids. I've never done this with Shiloh. Well, only once but I was desperate. She was scared of public toilets but I knew she was going to have an accident (just potty trained) so I bribed her to use it by offering a piece of candy. I felt bad, but I didn't know what else to do. But I won't do that anymore.

On second thought, if you want to interview me, go ahead and send me some questions and maybe I'll put them together with the other blogger, if I find the time.


Tamara said...

Loved this post!

On the kids... Our pastor once presented a series on parenting and said almost the same thing. He talked about not letting your children run your househould and dictate your every move - you are the parent, which means being in charge.

He also mentioned that when you speak your child, the kid must answer you. So if you ask them to clean their rooms, they can't say they didn't hear you becuase they've been taught to answer when spoken to.

Once again, probably easier said than accomplished. I have yet to have kids and test these theories out ;-)