29 May, 2012

The one about having kids

I am sure you’ve all gotten those questions before...you know the ones...”When are you getting a boyfriend? When are you getting married? When are you are...” Yip those ones.

Right now, we are deep in the “When are you having kids?

And I get it...we have been married for over eleven years now...and let’s face it, we ain’t getting any younger...so it’s not exactly the strangest question to be asking us...right? We get asked it all the time, from family, friends, work colleagues, everyone. I must be completely honest, I really have no problem with people asking me this question at all...except when it comes with that confused face...the one that has ‘huh?’, or ‘I just don’t get you...’ written all over it. They are few and far between though.

So, I thought there might be a few of you out there wondering the same thing...so here goes...my very short answer to ‘Do you want kids?

Yes.

Which, is usually followed by something like this...Of course yes, in fact if I could, I would have four or five. The thing is...in my head I am still twenty-five years old, so the idea of having kids, freaks me {us} out completely. I think it’s the biggest decision you will ever make in your life...so we want to be 100% sure we are both ready for it.

A good friend once summed it up so perfectly for me. He said “Having a kid, means you have to finally grow up. You can run companies, buy houses, move countries, have cars and things,...but having a kid, brings with it so much responsibility, it’s no longer just about you” I remember nodding as he spoke.

So folks...yes, we want to have kids.

Is it time...maybe, that's still a work in progress. I think we are both kinda ready to maybe do this thing...and when I say ready, I mean I want us to be both on the same page, want the same thing, and be ready to take the next huge step.

So there you have it...just in case you were wondering...

15 comments:

tanya kovarsky said...

You would be the best parents ever. And the best Instagramming parents ever. I hope it happens soon...

Hayley said...

Aah, thanks Tanya :-)It'll give us something else to instagram :-)

Shayne said...

Ah Hayley, you know my thoughts on this. I too think you guys would be awesome parents, but, if it never happens - you have some pretty awesome nephews/nieces to lavish all your attention on.

MY SIL doesn't have kids - and the love she has for my girls is something else. I often think that it is far more precious than the love we have for them :)

Hayley said...

Thanks so much Shayne xxx

Lea White said...

I think it is such a personal choice and it is a lifelong commitment. Having kids can be great fun and is very rewarding, but they are a huge responsibility so you need to feel ready for it.

cat said...

I think you guys will eb awesome parents BUT it is a decision for you two only to make. Do not let anyone pressure you towards a decision. Having said that, it is also true that one is never 100% ready to be a parent.Of that I am convinced. Hence we get 9 months to get ready for it. (BTW we squeezed in 3 kids in 33 months. LOL!)

Ordinarylife said...

When youa ready I think you two will be great parents!

But just realise that the questions don't stop as soon as you fall pregant. The next one will be "was it planned" Yes, seriously - the amount of times I got asked that.

Shortly followed by "when are you going to have the second one"

URGH!!!!

Perfectly Imperfect said...

I think you'll both be amazing parents!!! And when it's time, you'll know :)

V-n-J said...

I have to be honest, just reading everything you write and how much love and excitement you exude for everything made me wonder why and when you would have kids. You have so much love to give and I just see you being an amazing mother! when it does happen, you will ease into it so effortlessly.

Looking forward to following the 'everything pregnancy, everything baby, everything kids' journey!!!

Gill said...

I think it's such a personal decision and it never ceases to amaze me how very rude people can be in the questions they ask and the comments they make about something that is after all very personal! My aunt could never have children although she deseperately wanted to, and she often told me how hurt she was by the questions etc. Horrible!

Having said that.... the bit about growing-up.... in some ways yes, but in others having kids is SUCH a good excuse to relive your childhood :-)

NickiD said...

I couldn't think of two people more suited to being parents!!! As Tanya said, I hope it happens soon! Xxx

Bo said...

I CANNOT wait for the excitement when it finally happens! If I think Christmas gets you excited, I can just imagine how this will fill you with such joy and happiness. You guys are gonna make such awesome cool parents!

SallyJ said...

JUST FREAKIN DO IT ALREADY ;-)

Jacki Janse van Rensburg said...

It is possible that you are overthinking this.

Having a baby, is simultaneously the hardest, most life-changing thing you could ever do, and the most awesomely amazing life-changing thing you could ever do.

I think that once you hold that teeny little pink foot, you will be filled with the overwhelming knowing that it all worked out perfectly.

Now, stop thinking about it, and trust that God has perfect timing.

Vanessa said...

To use a Twilightism: it's like imprinting. Suddenly it's not gravity keeping you in place but *them*. Things you think are important suddenly become utterly meaningless and things youve never considered become massively important. Be prepared for your world to shift under your feet but know that it is all good and totally worth it, even when it doesn't feel like it!