10 February, 2009

just the two of us.

It's no secret that we want children, and as I near my thirty-fourth birthday {gasp}, I wouldn't say I am broody, but I know it's time {my mother is now doing the happy dance}. So I have those moments when I get a little down that I don't have children yet, and wonder when we will.

But for the last few weeks, as quickly as those moments creep up, they just as quickly disappear.
Now before I carry on.... I know children are wonderful and they change your life for the better, and I know you could not imagine your life without them...and I cannot wait for that time either.

But lately, I have been treasuring the time that I have with just my husband more. I am not sure if it's because I have been away from him, or because I have been spending a lot more time with my nephews. And seeing just how much work children are. I mean it's not like I didn't know that. And it's not a bad thing. I just look at my nephews and realise that it is twenty-four-seven. It's really hard at times. There are fun and also not-so-fun times.

We have been together for nearly nine years now, just the two of us. Lazying around on the weekends, taking afternoon naps, popping out whenever we want too, no one else to worry about, but ourselves.
But, it's only now that I have started to realise that I need to remember and appreciate these times. Maybe it is because I know, or hope, that children will happen sooner, rather than later.

I just know that instead of getting down about not having children, I am starting to really appreciate and love this time...when it's just the two of us...for now.

15 comments:

jenn said...

I think that's a wonderful attitude to have. When it happens, you won't regret it one bit, I'm sure. But you won't regret enjoying the time you have now either.

Heather Nicole said...

I agree with you and Jenn - Enjoy the time while you have it :) Babies will come when God sees it is time

Kirsty said...

That's so great! From someone who had a baby 9months and 1 day to our wedding day, I am very jealous of you! Yes - I love my kids and my husband too much, but if I had it all planned, I would have had more time of just the 2 of us before sprogging!
Enjoy every minute until the happy mayhem starts!
P.S: It doesn't feel like hard work 24/7 when its your own baby! And it makes you love your hubby even more when you see what a good dad he is! So - all good things to look forward to! x

Simply-Mel said...

Serious wisdom there. We also had almost 10yrs together before our first came along ---- so worthwhile.

Sally J_wife of Space J said...

That is awesome for the two of you and a great attitude to have!

You will also see that when Faf jnr (I think it'll be a boy) arrives, you and Faf snr will spend other types of special moments together - ie laughing together at something Faf jnr just did (or crying!!)

I also agree with Kirsty though - it doesn't feel like hard work when it's your own - being an aunt is harder and takes more patience I think :-)

Have fun together love-birds!!

Wenchy said...

I was a mom by the time I was 20. I've never had any time by myself without the worry of children... enjoy it... just enjoy it

Joanne said...

Apparently, statistics show (no idea where from) that childless couples are happier, dont tell my DH and I can think of a few others but it is probably true, sad but true

Ness said...

I only learned after having kids what people meant about how your life will change. Kids are a LIFESTYLE change. The same way you have to change your lifestyle if you want to lose a lot of weight. You do different things, you think different things, EVERYTHING is different. But don't let that put you off. You will experience feelings that you didn't even know you could - INCREDIBLE HIGHS, and a few VERY SCARY LOWS. But honestly - kids make your life interesting again. Well they did for me anyway. I had my kids at 29 and 32 and already the difference between pregnancies and the 'toll' on my body was vastly different. I'd say sooner, rather than later. It's fun trying for kids, trust me!

Janet said...

Enjoy the time together! I think it's great!

Ordinarylife said...

I think that pretty much describes how we are feeling at the moment as well.

The Running Golfer said...

Awesome post Sweetie and one I agree with 100%...

Emily said...

ahhh:) i love hubby and wifey time too:)

Miller said...

There is something to be said for "the early bird catches the worm" or "getting a headstart".

However, there is also the saying that goes along the lines of "all good things come to those who wait"

I suppose there are pro's and con's to everything.

You will know when is right!

Kylie said...

I know I don't "know" y'all personally, but I do love to read the way that you love each other! It's a beautiful thing and when the time is right, you will make wonderful parents -- because you do love each other so much! It is hard to beat, seeing that little newborn laying on your handsome hubby :)

Tamara said...

My husband and I have been married two years and people keep asking us when the kids are coming. Especially my MIL!

We're both only 24 and loving our marriage as is, so we plan to wait at least another three years (while he's studying) before we have kids. Maybe we'll change our minds before then, but i reckon it's a good thing to enjoy each other for a spell first.

I'm glad you can appreciate oyur time with your hubby instead of taking it for granted.