13 November, 2008

meet the parents.

Its funny how as you get older, that you start to realise that maybe, just maybe, your parents are actually alright, and not those freaks, who did not understand you and just wanted to ruin your life :-)

When I started this blog, I introduced you to parts of my family.
You’ve met the Lacys and the Joynts, now it’s time to meet the parents.

What can I say about the two most important people in our lives?
I have now started this paragraph about ten times, and can’t seem to get this right! It’s so difficult to put how we feel into words. So lets start at the beginning...

Growing up in the 70’s and the 80’s in South Africa, right in the middle of apartheid, you would of thought that my sister and my childhood would be filled with images or memories of very bad things. But it wasn’t, not at all in fact. We were completely sheltered from what was actually going on. I know most people would say that maybe that was a bad thing, not to me. We were young, very young. My parents gave us a childhood that any other child would have had in a normal society. Yes, we were completely naive and I remember the day clearly, when I realised, hang-on, something is not right here. My parents protected us against what was going on, and I am forever grateful for that.

My Dad taught us to travel your own country before you see the world, to work hard for what you want, that education is more important than anything. My Mom gave up her job to stay at home with us. She was there every day after school, waiting for us, I wish one day that I can do the same for my children. They taught me to have manners, to respect my elders. They gave us holidays that we will never forget. They have shown me what a marriage is all about, the ups and downs, and how you can always come out stronger together. They gave me a faith that I am only now starting to appreciate and live. We have laughed together and cried together. That a family stands together, no matter what. They have made me the person I am today.

Do they drive me crazy? Yes
Do I drive them crazy? Yes
Do they worry far too much? Yes, and Mom that’s you!
Do they think they are always right? Yes
Are they always right? Yes
Do they love me? Yes
Do they make me proud? Yes
Do I make them proud? I hope so


I can never thank them enough. I can only hope that I give my children the exact same life and values I have been so honoured and privileged to have been given.

Mom and Dad.
I love you.

21 comments:

Francois said...

And they have taught me what it means to love unconditionally.

We are indeed very, very lucky.

Love you Mom and Dad...

Miller said...

Spot on Hayley!

Keith said...

What a lovely post, You often mentioned your parents in a positive note. Thank you for introducing them to us.

Kylie said...

what a beautiful post! you are truly, so blessed!

lisa said...

i think you need a "mom & dad" post in te middle of every month. i loved hearing about them, and little bit about how you grew up. maybe you can tell us about holiday traditions in your family for december?
thanks for sharing them with us, hayley.

Hayley said...

Thanks Keith!

Hayley said...

Thanks Kylie, I know.
And I am sure just about everyone can say the same thing about there parents.

Hayley said...

Thanks so much Lisa!
I think I will do that, good idea, mind you I dont think they are very different, except that it is summer here and VERY hot so we do do things slightly differently.

Heather Nicole said...

How sweet Hayley! It is amazing how your views change when you get older. You learn to appreciate everything your parents have done for you and looking back I too realize that everything my parents have ever done were the best things for me. Although I couldnt see it at the time. I try and teach my younger brothers that, but they are still to young to understand.
You are lucky to have such wonderful parents and they are lucky to have such a wonderful daughter!

Hayley said...

Thanks so much Heather, I know I look back now, and I think what the hell was I doing - shame my poor folks :-)

David Richardson said...

Wow, Hayley. Sounds like God has blessed you with a wonderful family. Happy for you, my friend!! :)

Hayley said...

Thanks David, HE so has. I am very lucky.

Emily said...

Hayley, great post! I love the picture! thanks for sharing about ur parents with us:) Really loved this post! parents are soo great! have a great weekend:)
No wonder you turned out soo great... because your parents are great:)

Lesleigh said...

Stunning Hayley, brought back memories of my Mom sitting outside Benoni High waiting for us. You are a stunning lady.

mom and dad said...

Wow! What can we as parents say about that. We did our best, had the two most wondeful daughters anybody could have wished for. Of course we are always right!!!!!!
Love you both and extended family so much and always wanted and will always want you to have the best.
Speak to you soon
Love mom and dad

Heather Landsberg said...

From what I remember --- you kids were not all THAT bad !! hehe. Clive & Cheryl - you can be equally proud of your girls as what they are of you... Love you all. Heather

Lindsay said...

We are the luckiest sisters in the world, aren't we? And we got eachother as an added bonus!!! Love you.

Hayley said...

Thanks so much Emily.

Hayley said...

Thanks Lesleigh, those were the days hey?

Hayley said...

Hey Tanie Heather!!!! Thanks for commenting....yay!!!!
I know and I am going to do a post on how fantastic us kids were....he-he!

Hayley said...

Hey everyone....my sister commented on my blog....its about time :-)
luv ya!